Problem/issues with thoughts at matters, in order to make as well pregnancy/just-Schwangerschaft?

This is long, I warn, but please read any information/advice as I really really want/need = /

O.K., I am years 18, almost 19, old. My whole life, I always have said, thereß I no children wants. I never have liked babies. Again, you punish to me, them, as soon as she/it ungefähr 5-7 years old is, and on.

Now, I am then have have time 1 1/2 years and I to think with my friend, whether I can see myself in my future with him/it, or not. When I can there thinkingover, and I often am located with introducing itself/themselves as he/it would become be/treat me if I, which would be he/it for a father, should become yadda yadda, typical thoughts right, that women have, whom I assume, pregnant? Now, I am very much a 21 with it. Century woman. I want to have a work. I place auf\'t wants my on the house, K,cleaning and the credit always pass out üche, limited life the responsibility always to look at the kid/children while my husband/boyfriend is with his/its friends out. I place auf\'t, housewife wants to be.

My friend is Chinese. He/it agrees, thereß I a work, that doesn\'t have to hold home women open the whole time, should have as soon as sie\'wieder pregnant/have-Kinder. the matter is, he/it thinks, thereß over other women. If we occur, he/it believes, thereß I should, if we have per children, stay at home 24/7 with him/her/them, you clean the house, you cook all meals, you rinse the dishes, you get up in the middle of the night goes to tend to crying and so on babies/children, while he/it sleeps peacefully, to work, has look at matters tv to talk about it, if he/it comes home, and goes out with friends.

Do I feel objectify if that is the correct word?, and thereß he/it sexist is. I believe, thereß the child responsibility should be divided. We should take spins, that get up in the middle of the night, ourselves, we should take spins, that clean, spins should take, that the child picks up from care, ouchßer if one gets out unequivocally before the care ends, and so on

O.K., I feel that I have a family/being important questions of pregnancy/raising a woman. I place auf\'t wants to become pregnant because in 1, I become my Körper 2 ruins, my self-esteem won\'t dwindle 3 to anything, my friend is 4 shallowly more beautifully dang, he/it would not have anything to do with the child and says, that it is my responsibility in order to negotiate 24/7 with the child, until the child is approximately 5, or with it 5, that nursing is, something, which it interests me, still nauseates me, and my friend is a solid creditor in it in 6, my friend is brought in by periods out, and I a child heard have have, you bleed after it for weeks in 7, my friend tends to think that, if I have pains, I it falsifies. ICH\'m brought out one also through periods, therefore I take every individual day bc-Pillen and jump the sugar pills, my doctor says that it is O.K. in order to do this. I place also exactly auf\'t wants my Körper deforms itself to me and my friend and has nastily about a pregnancy concerned. It becomes m no one of usögen, although we received a child in the end. I gewann\'t is attractive to us, and I lose my whole life emphasis on me, that well and präsentabel sees, places. You/they me, that am said, however, the child becomes groß is.

And let this I opinion, I am saying for silence in no way, is bad. ICH\'m, that none per formula befürwortet, and not breast milk. These are only my Gefühle. This reason silence nauseates, I am because, although never made it ich\'ve, I fühle me like a cow. ICH\'m not any goal, thereß people can snap on it in order to get a beverage. Pumping reminded me at factories the suction of the milk of cow maschinell\'s-Euter. I become so uncomfortable, if there peopleover, or opinion talks, that drinks, and so on for example my friend repeated a line of a comedian of this didn\'t I a time hears, and my friend, who is said "like a baby, who suckles it, is the breast of mother"., after he/it had said, thereß, I became so uncomfortable, that I felt, nauseated for it with myself to be a woman, she/it could do that, the being something, which is there only for drinking.

Also, as soon as I has be a child, if I do, myself no breeding machine. ICH\'m, that doesn\'t go, to continue, from babies für my husband, to bang.

Oh, and another matter, why do women, and men tell her/it/them carrying of his/its child? Why places recites \'t-Frauen, thereß is it my/our-Kind, and men say that it is our child? I höre always women says "Ich carries his/its child" and men, who always think, that, not the woman, the fetus an exact copy of itself in the womb and the repute of it "theirs" is. maybe this are only the Männer ich\'ve heard/talked to, but it brings me to the thinking that all men do it.

So essentially, I have feelings from the wanting pregnant becomes, but has many questions with it with it. can somebody please that do you give me any information/advice with it? I place auf\'t, babies want to hate and are nauseated by pregnancy. ICH\'m very curiously thereover, but I cannot shake these questions with it. I wünsche, that I am more similar other women, being naturally female and liking children/excited, in order to have a family, therefore feels me and so on from place I sometimes = (

Should I talk also with my friend about everything of it? I place auf\'t wants to flip out for him/it out, but I become over women so adversely and defensive, they take,

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Sorrowfully I intended to hold only with "me, my friend doesn\'t want to flip out you out". you können only the last line or two of this question jumps >.<

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from Sarah G

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If you cannot talk with your friend about matters like it, you definitely should not have any children with him/it. Not because it it a misogynist or has cultural questions, that itself with pregnancy and motherhood beschäftigen, the Jive with your view of this resemble doesn\'t dance. But because you land, \'t/ca doesn\'t communicate over important questions.

Having children is a gigantic one, important, Leben-sich of changing decision. You/they müssen mentally and financially ready mentally physical is. And is the type of willingness, that does you, on too both has, together and both talk ungefähr, as nearer you to it to make a decision, comes.

Meanwhile, you take brand certainly your birth control pills!! and luck!

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I can increase this not even very true with him/it, was supposed to have sent with it from the red flags previously. Thanks.

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through? Gimme cho o slat? You/they still still are schöne young. You/they have much time to decide if you want a baby, or not. I am 28 years old and I think with it by no means that I waited too long. Waited I, until I got two college degrees, was married, and got out all my partying-Tage from the way.

Also, you work together brand certainly with your friend from all your worries before you become pregnant. It sounds like there, much is too many worries with pregnancy and parenting about you, that came pregnant into the near future. If you want to have a family, maybe he/it is not the right für you.

from Michael well... I believes, that you are very balanced, and believes, that this threw very well. Männer typically refers on the child as it "theirs" because, they were the one well, that the child\'s sex decides. , x and y-Chromosome. Women have only X, M,X and Y. X=girl have änner, Y = boy, but if it descends to it, you husband/boyfriend will help you with the midnight, that cries, and is there.... you types always should communicate and should divide your bloke feelings together. You/they become assume any cow and you, müssen, that you are not a drinking. You/they ernheads your child simply. and as soon as you have a child, you accustomed is you annoyed e the crying ect. but love it. You/they müssen itself reminds, that this baby worked you and your husband/boyfriend. You/they will take spins, you work out matters and brand, that it threw. Glück!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

through A seems it, that you look at only negativity to be pregnant, and it seems that wants you dont shouldnt you with it if your friend loves Sie, he/it should be a Bl to be understood that progress with pregnancy like strech-Flecken, that sometimes increase, make of the matters alot, your not going, to feel itself at all beautifully, and you needs somebody, in order to remind you, that you are beautiful, only is, that you go thats through a phase into your life, goes this to change everything including your Körper-i-dont, thinks you, that you should have you a baby at the moment, must types approximately for him/it particularly the whole matter you discuss types Ihr the only responsible for the baby must agree or other your going, to be miserable.